How much do you resist showing up fully for life?
I am reading an interesting book called the Surrender Experiment. Michael Singer (author of the Untethered Soul). Mr. Singer describes how he decided to surrender to whatever presented in his life for one year and not evaluate what was showing up. But rather to say yes to what comes into his life, despite any internal resistance. His goal was to rid himself of internal resistance and go with the flow of life. When something good or bad shows up in our life, do we evaluate it based on our preferences in our mind of what we like or dislike? Do we then we decide our action based on our mind’s preferences.
The whole premise of the surrender experiment is to accept everything that takes place in your life, good or bad, and say yes to it.
As I read this book I contemplated what a radical experiment this would be to undertake in my life. How much of my time and energy is spent resisting life and evaluating what shows up, in order to compare it against my mind’s preference for what I was expecting to show up.
So what has shown up in my life so far that was not planned? Two wonderful dogs, a wonderful American man I met at a retreat, a home in the Colorado mountains at 10,000 ft. Being financially dependent and emotional dependnt on this American man as I am not legally allowed to work (ie surrender control). What would happen if I said an internal YES rather than dwelling on where I should be in my life at this age. What if I defined success by my ability to surrender to what is present in my life. To fully show up?
How do I surrender completely to the experiences in front of me?
How often do I hang onto self concepts that limit me and set expectations within myself about what I let into my life. What concepts am I holding onto that limit what I let into my life? Can I surrender my fixed concepts of myself like the author did. Self concepts and labels such as independent woman, grieving widow, college teacher. Do I let these concepts unconsciously define me? The more I hang onto the past self concepts that no longer apply here in the present, do I limit the unknown, or mysteries that are waiting to flow into my life.
Michael Singer made the “commitment to surrender to life’s flow even if he didn’t understand what was happening.”
Through the surrender experiment he started out on 10 acres wanting to be alone and practice his meditation in the woods. By saying yes to what life presented he ended up with a multi-millon dollar business developed on his land, he built a temple dedicated to yoga and meditation, and had a permanent spiritual community that was established on his land called the Temple of the Universe that has existed since 1975. In his book he said “ I know perfectly well that I didn’t do it. The best I can say is that I let go of myself, and allowed what was meant to be-to be.”
How can I do that? How can I fully surrender to life? How have I opted out of life, or not fully shown up to what is present in my life today? How have my attempts to control and direct my life from my mind’s preferences interrupted my true purpose?